On the not cumming thing with BJ, don't think for a second it's bad BJ. In my case I would actually get harder and harder with a good BJ, and so the better it is; my brain starts to say penetration please, and reserve letting go. This can happen even if the plan was BJ only. Also we can tell if you're worried and my be worried in kind. Does this in my case I will never cum that way? No, but I have to dial in, in my mind that this is where it happens.