I had an ally once tell me to KILL MYSELF and that I deserved to be assaulted because I pointed out that straight pride parades were inappropriate. You see, amazingly, I am not a mind reader. I can not look at a straight person and just know if they are cool or not, dangerous or not, if they are a good ally or not. I can legally be fired if I get outed in my state, and I need to protect myself. If protecting myself is unfair, then fine, I'm unfair. But real allies get that.